A REASON TO BE

To give something to someone else.

Things, especially relationships, are always difficult. At least that has been my experience. Dealing with another human being takes work and constant attention. I think that’s what real love is—being willing to put in the time.

But, in the end, having a good relationship can be the most rewarding thing we do. My theory is, that because each one of us is so very different, there is no simple way to generalize what happens between to human beings. It’s difficult enough for each one of us to deal with ourselves, let alone another person.

So once again, I have no answers. I know, for me, relationships with my closest family members can be excruciatingly difficult at times. What I’ve learned is just to be there. To be present.

It’s the same as just existing for ourselves except instead of giving ourselves encouragement, giving a little away. I guess the one difference is: giving something away. Giving of our self. Wanting the other person to succeed just as we want that for our self.

But, in the end, it comes back to us anyway. In this way it’s a selfish proposition so not so hard to do.